Investigation on the Current Situation of Marriage and Love among Migrant Peasant Workers

They are looking for happiness, but they are always blasphemed; they long for love, but there is always no landing. The strong demand for spirit and emotion cannot be satisfactorily met. It is the primary psychological problem that plagues these drifting aliens and the “second generation of agriculture”.

We launched the "Love in a foreign land" survey: In Ningbo, a large survey of migrant workers' affective marriages and case interviews were organized. Trying to answer some questions - young "second generation" groups, their love dreams in foreign lands are gaining? What are the dilemmas of marriage they face? What can they do to reap happiness?

The migrant workers' emotional marriage survey, the reporter selected two survey sites in Ningbo: The first one is Libang Community, Xiwu Subdistrict, Fenghua City, where there are more than 2,000 migrant workers, and it is the first migrant worker community in the country; one is Beilun Ginkgo Community. There are 960 outdoor working families in the community, which is the first resident community with migrant workers as the mainstay. Around the community, small and medium-sized textile mills, container factories, and gathering places for migrant workers in peacetime, journalists also visited one by one.

The survey found that the new generation of migrant workers in the issue of marriage and marriage mainly have five major problems: do not know how to get along with the opposite sex; do not dare to fall in love with local people; love in working places often can not be fruitful; fellow villagers to find the mainstream, the narrow circle of communication ; does not accept the introduction of marriage, has a deep look forward to love.

Confused one:

Do you want to communicate with female migrant workers?

In the Libang community, the migrant worker Wang Jin introduced himself: “Zhu Yuanzhang and I are fellow villagers, all of them are from Fengyang, Anhui Province. I was born in the 30th year of the founding of New China. Now a Japanese company works, but I’m very patriotic.” The opening speech is different from the others, and there are many internet phrases.

Do not like to interact with people in reality is a common way for many migrant workers to evade the reality. This was also the case with Wang Jin.

Wang Jin came to Ningbo in 2002 and worked in a Japanese-owned textile company. Many of the textile companies are female workers. According to reason, the handsome looking Wang Jin has a lot of opportunities to find his girlfriend. However, Wang Jin does not like to take the realistic route, but likes to find himself on the Internet.

In 2002, Wang Jin, who had just learned to surf the Internet, accidentally got acquainted with a Luzhou girl on the Internet. Online love has been maintained for more than a year. On the only rest day of the week, Wang Jin spent on the road to Zhangzhou. However, the separation of the two places eventually brought the end of the relationship. During this period, a female colleague expressed to him the deep-seated love, but he refused without hesitation.

Now, Wang Jin has not given up on the Internet to find his love, and his search continues.

survey data:

Of the respondents, 53.88% felt that they were getting along with the opposite sex. Among them, 21.23% said they were “not going well”, 24.89% “don’t know how to get along”, and 5.25% chose “no Time to get along." In the way of love, knowing friends through the Internet becomes an ideal way to understand love first. In the “Solution to Loneliness” option, the first choice is “Internet”, which is 26.85%. The network has not only become the window for the new generation of migrant workers to understand the outside world, but also has become the first choice for them to communicate with the opposite sex. At the same time, they are alienated from the same situation as the foreign counterparts.

Confusion 2: Do you want to be in love with local people?

He was born in 1979 in Anhui Province, Shi Dingjing. In 2002, he graduated from university with a passion. He stayed away from his hometown in Guangde and came to Ningbo Beilun.

He was hired to work at the Helen Piano Factory and was an ordinary clerk in the factory. Two years later, the first person he met was to choose not to fall in love with a Beilun girl. Without him, he feared being looked down upon by the locals, and there was a saying in Beilun: The cost of the local daughter-in-law was 3 million. Considering time and again, Shi Dingjing decided to change one way, first to love after work.

He has a clear goal and spent two years, step by step, to a middle management position. At this time, he kept his promise to find the original girl. Two years later, they successfully came together and did not spend 3 million. They formed their own happy family.

Since then, Shi Dingjing has won honors such as “Outstanding Foreign Workers in Beilun District” and “Top Ten Migrant Workers in Ningbo”, and it has become a good woman of the local people. His family also received the title of "Beilun District Civilized Family".

survey data:

52.16% of people do not want to fall in love with local people, only 10.48% seek a try. In the other option of “being in love with locals, what are you worried about?”, the ratio of “being looked down upon by locals” is higher, followed by “cannot be integrated into local society”. Respondents said that the psychological problem is far greater than "the pressure of life is too great."

Confused three: do not get married in a foreign land

In the ginkgo community, reporters encountered Wu Yaling who came to give migrant workers an injection. Without the introduction of the community secretary Chen Hansong, it is difficult for Xiao Wu, who looks handsome and dressed in a nurse's uniform, to connect with migrant workers.

Xiao Wu, a native of Hunan Province, graduated from the nursing profession. Four years ago, a casual act of seeking employment on the Internet led her to Beilun. Four years later, Xiao Wu settled down unconsciously and became a new Beilun man.

In 2007, Xiao Wu almost changed from the new Beilun people to the true Beilun people. At that time, she fell in love with a local young man, and Xiao Wu was worried about being opposed by his boyfriend's family. As a result, the boyfriend's family was very satisfied with herself, but when she brought her boyfriend back to her hometown, her parents actually opposed it. Do not want to let her marry so far.

25-year-old Xiao Wu followed her parents, but since that time, she no longer dared to fall in love with the locals.

Last year, Xiao Wu met a fellow villager at work and his fellow villagers also had similar emotional experiences with her. They gradually had a common topic. In February of this year, the two entered the marriage hall.

They have always had a thought and waited for two years before returning to their hometown. She laughed and said: "A lot of migrant workers have a similar 'home complex'. Although it is very good here, it is still willing to return home if possible. The same applies to finding the object."

survey data:

Of the 2,442 respondents, only 334 had talked with locals about love. Of the 334 individuals, only 39 were later married. Among them, 139 were not married because they were “prevented by their parents” (including both parents), and the rest were “emotional infidelity” and “discreet personality”.

Confused four: Do not find a fellow

Wang Yuyao, 26, has been married for two years. Her husband is her hometown.

When she was in her hometown in Shandong, she was almost forced by her family to go to a blind date. She was also brought together with her husband under the family's Zhang Luo. “My family hopes that I will be married early, and I am afraid that I will be married overseas. In the eyes of my parents, the old man knows the basics and knows what is going on. Even the words are right.”

Xiao Wang said that her husband was three years old and she is now opening a container truck in Beilun. They came to Ningbo together after they got married.

After having a child, her husband felt bad for her and asked her to quit her job at the factory and bring her children at home. Xiaowang described his current life as saying: “Walking around with children is the main content of my day. Most of the people I’ve come across are women with children like me. My husband’s car is harder, and she’s often tired after work, sometimes she is down. I fell asleep and I looked distressed."

Xiao Wang intends to wait for the child to be a little older and go out to work, relieve her husband’s life pressure and jointly initiate the burden of the family.

survey data:

In the “You prefer to choose to marry a local or a fellow”, 81.34% of the people choose their hometown. In the choice of reasons: “Easy to communicate” is the first place, accounting for 29.00%, and the second is “Life. There is not much difference in habits. There is 19.72% of the two choices of “feeling” and “can go back to home”.

Puzzle five: Do not go blind

Zhang Huyuan is still single at the age of 29, which is considered “leftover man” in his hometown.

This problem, in the urging of the parents again and again, he responded, he is almost 30 years old, and even a girlfriend did not, it is a bit late.

Zhang Huyuan worked as a technical worker in a textile company in Beilun. There is not much opportunity for contact with the opposite sex outside of work, and companies rarely organize social activities.

Many migrant workers are more likely to find objects in their hometown. In the selection of the object, Zhang Huyuan has his own thoughts: “I don’t mind if you are a fellow or a local girl, you just need to find the right one. The key is to look at people. Two people have a common language and personality. It will come together."

He does not believe in dating programs. Although he has not participated in, he always feels that it is more hype. My parents asked him to find a girl in Ningbo and asked him to go blind. Zhang Huyuan also did not do it. He was disgusted with this approach. He has a prejudice against his blind date, and the blind date is like buying food at the food court. This is far from the happiness in his mind. However, Zhang Huyuan stated that he can accept the introduction of colleagues because everyone is about the same age and the environment is the same. In his opinion, this change has been a major step forward for him and is also a sign of self-confidence.

survey data:

Only 3.36% of people had experience with blind marriages at the marriage agency, and 86.50% could not accept a marriage without a love process.

85.65% of people are afraid of the matchmaking approach of the matchmaking agency, and they do not believe its effect. 11.38% of people do not like the traditional way of introducing objects, but are willing to participate in organized public welfare activities and hope to contact the opposite sex through activities to find their own half.

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